Your parents had it coming. When I was 11 I was at the market with my mom and she wanted some kind of coldmeat (I dont even remember what it was but she wanted an specific Legends Are Born In August, Happy Birthday August Us 2021 T-Shirt). She asks the girl behind the counter if it was that brand and the girl (who happened to be asian, or looked asian) said yes. Then my mom proceeds to say “how would you know???. People in your country eat dogs”……. I understood at that very young age how shit of a person my mom was (white from mississippi). There is nothing you can do or say to change that, believe me I’ve tried. The best way is always to stay away or else you hold your wife, your kid and your wife’s family to deal with agressions like that forever.